warm enough for me to shower???

my nieces sometimes talked about love...how did you realized that you fall for him?? what is love?? etc..

honestly, i was eavesdropped their conversation...

but when it get steamy ops dreamy, i interrupt them...

haha...i am their younger, single but unavailable aunt...they asked me things related to love...

but since im not married yet, i just said "to know if he is the one for me, i have to test the 'water', if it is warm enough for me to shower..."

 and they were like "huh??????!!!!! water???? shower??? whats that mean??? naked???" with blur face...

hahahahaha...

and so i gave them a free lecture about my quote...

to make it easier i rephrase the quote to "to know if he is the one for me, i have to test the guy, if he is good enough for me to be with me..."

and so they did understand that the water refer to the guy...not the actual water we used to shower...

shower (to be together) is our aim...

temperature (warm, hot, or cold) is our test/criteria...

one of my niece asked me "why u use all these water, warm and shower things??? it is so complicated..."

well, my reason i gave them is "imagine, when you want to take a shower, and the water is too cold, your shower probably last for 5 mins, if the water is too hot, you probably dont want to take your shower, and if it is warm, you will feel relaxed and you will take your time in the bathroom ignoring others out there knocking...and so is you and your partner...you know if he is the one when you test him..."

to test the guy, we need a thermometer so that we can know his body temperature...hahaha no...

the guy should be able to accept us, ladies, as we are...the good and the bad...no exception...and that will be the test...some guy may want to change his partner...but do not change us...because we know that you guys dont want to be changed too...

others may say, " women are like roses, pretty but be careful with the thorns.."

if he can accept who we are then he is the one...

my niece ask me "love???"

and i said "you love him right...if he shows you how much he loves you, and can accept who you are, then give him the same...love him and accept who he is...dont change him too..."

then, she asked me again, "what's the other thorns???"

find it yourselves...its inside and its outside...you will know what the thorn is when the thorn is sharp enough to  hurt one or both of you and your partner...

whats ur opinion - may-december relationship...

may-december relationship refer to a relationship in which one partner is older than the other partner...

why may-december??? sorry im clueless...its just a term used to show huge age gap between the couple...

usually, this kind of relationship refer to a man being much older than his lover...but, it was then...now, there are some may-dec relationship where the woman is older than her lover..

does age really matter to you??

is your criteria for a girlfriend/wife/boyfriend/husband include the age?? not too young, not too old or same age??

may-dec pros include stability (for sure) and learning from one another...this relationship somewhat more stable because the older partner is more patient and forgiving (well, im not sure of this because there are man out there, i mean younger, who is patient and forgiving enough to his partner...) but maybe this relationship is more stable in terms of finance because the older partner (for sure) is financially successful...and since each partner is in a different stage of life (one partner is 40+ and the other is 20+), they can teach and inspire each other...

the cons, people, physical and family...people staring because a partner is older and the other partner is younger..they will think the younger (if a woman) is a gold digger...while physical, the younger is hitting his/her sexual prime while the older is far beyond it, do you believe it?? there is a saying somewhere on the internet "the physical is a big deal, if it isn't, why are you sleeping together at all??"...( but for me, when someone is in love, the love is unconditional...so they can accept their partner fully...for physical, there are ways to solve it...honestly i dont know how to solve it because im not into it yet...hehe)...for family, younger partner have to deal with his/her stepchildren while the older partner have to deal with the wife's/husband's family...the stepchildren may think that he/she want to replace their mom/dad while the family may treat the older partner as though he/she is having a mid-life crisis...

but, whatever the cons is, it is mainly about perception...how someone think about this kind of relationship...the positive will be great, the negative, hhhmmm will have to give them a chill pill so that they can chill, relax and more accepting hehe...

here's example of may-dec celebrity couples....

1 ---------> micheal douglas and catherine zeta jones (age difference = 25 yrs) still married

2 ---------> celine dion and rene angelil (age difference = 26 yrs) still married

3 ---------> ashton kutcher and demi moore (age difference = 15 yrs) still married

4 ---------> tom cruise and katie holmes (age difference = 16 yrs) still married

5 ---------> afen and you-know-who (age difference = +- yrs) =.=
(no pic...hehe)

2nd week puasa (i guess)...biskut raya da habis???

td aku pasang telinga masa sis ku bkol dgn sis ku lg sorg...dorg whispering ah..

(aku nda tau la apa sis ku lg sorg ckp...so ni conversation 1 org ja la ya...)

sis: eya...ada ulat bulu diats..
sis: hhhmmm makmur 1 balang pun hbs sdh...
sis: aku order 4 balang...tgl 2 balang lg di atas...
sis: klu aku kc turun tu ulat bulu...hhhmmmm 5 min ja hbs sdh tu...pirana ba dorg semua ni...bsuk la msa bday bru kc kluar...

hahaha....sis ku mmg suka order biskut awl2...

bkn utk raya pun...actually those biskut utk mkn2 ja...

besala kn pirana....cpt ja hbs so kna kc kluar tym byk org d rmh...especially ni hr kn bday pupuch (my nephew)...

nti mau dkt raya order lg...hbs lg...order lg...hbs lg...order lg...hbs lg...then raya hbs sdh...so nada sdh...kna tgu lg tym xmas...

last yr raya pun mcm tu...dtg ja coco lara....damn...biggest temptation ever geng...

sedap gila...

top 3 fears/phobias that can prevent success in your relationship...

1 ---------> Pistanthrophobia...fear of trusting people...a person with this kind of fear may not opening up to their lover because of his/her past hurt/betrayal experiences, suspicious thoughts which turn into some actions (constant calling to check where his/her partner is, constantly starting unnecessary arguments, name calling, stalking behaviour etc), and feeling of losing their other half...

in my opinion, some couple have problem trusting their partner and almost all lovers out there afraid of losing their other half...and i dare to admit that i do had both...but is that mean i have pistanthrophobia??? i dont think so...because i am totally normal...

2 ---------> Philophobia....fear of falling in love...a person with this phobia had been hurt in the past and not knowing that their partner does love them back...it always come up with the fear of rejection...since they've been hurt before, they decided not to show their emotions again...

well...i do have fear of rejection...but fear of falling in love??? never...hehe...i do want to fall in love...eventhough i had been in a few break-ups doesnt mean my love stops there...my love continues...yeah love rawk!!!

3 ---------> commitment-phobia (commitorum-metus)...fear of commitment...scared of taking things to the next level, staying in a relationship too long, putting a title (boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancee, husband, wife...)...they will act irrationally, they may lie, cheat, or hurt their partner...and find ways to get out from the relationship before it gets serious...

huish...whomever have this kind of phobia, stop flirting...dont start love if u just want to end it...

# so dear readers, i do hope that you dont have any of the above phobia...i know you are normal like me...we dont have that kind of phobias...ye yea...

just get married...please...:D

a friend in FB recently posted...

her: i hope i can end my singlehood this yr...

15 likes and 30++ comments...

im hoping that her boyfriend fulfill her wish a.s.a.p

you want to know why??

because the girlfriend posted in FB how much she loves her boyfriend every 1 min...

my FB's home full with her posts...

besides, the boyfriend recently posted "dear, me hav to go, keep updating my FB k..."

after that, the girlfriend log in his boyfriend's FB and post some love related things...and the girlfriend likes every post from the boyfriend...

it puzzled me actually...

if the boyfriend is away, and the girlfriend updating his boyfriend's FB, while the girlfriend likes all the updates...hhhmmmm i can only come up with a conclusion...

that....

the girlfriend is struggle for attraction...

maybe la...

hehe...i feel annoyed by it actually...and no, im not jealous...

just imagine if in 1 hr, 10 posts from the girlfriend and in a day there will be 240 if she's not doing anything...probably 100-130 per day...

just it is too FB's PDA (public display of affection)...

BTW, i hope that they married soon...they are truly madly deeply in love...fingers crossed...

amen...

edinburgh....ed-in-bu-ra...me?? 100000000% shy...

me and my partner...well, im sure u can guess who he is...hehe...

on saturday, we talked for about 4 hrs...

i told him that one of my friend had their engagement photoshoot in Edinburgh...and his reaction was:

me: edinburgh (i pronounced it edinb-u-r-k...)
him: ????
me: edinb-u-r-k...
him: oooooo u mean edinburgh (he pronounced it ed-in-bu-ra...)
me: ooooo (red face) ed-in-bu-ra (with lower volume possible..)
him: ed-in-bu-ra....hehehe say it...ed-in-bu-ra...(with devilish laugh...) now is your turn to learn...

we ended up laughing...but me?? OMG....padan muka..why??

before this, i used to laugh when he pronounce kuala lumpur, sabah, kota kinabalu, manukan, borneo, etc...coz its sounds funny when he pronounced it...and i have to say it slowly ko-ta ki-na-ba-lu...but he said kkooo-ttaaaa kkkiii-nnaa-bbaaa-lu (he pronounced the lu faster than the rest)...

it sounds funny, i can laugh...

but now....i pronounced the word wrongly...and his turn to laugh at me...ahahhahaha

well...to be positive, i dont think im the one on earth pronounce edinburgh, ed-in-bu-rk...im pretty sure there are others out there pronounced it like me...but since, he taught me how to pronounce it in Scots way then im happy that im right...hehe

to be negative, OMG...im still shy...damn shy....totally shy...

* a lesson to be taken by me: do not laugh at people who cant pronounced a word perfectly....tgk apa jd dgn sy, padan muka...lol

why now????

knpa bru skrg ko mau sy blik???

slma ni aku sdh bg ko pluang...aku siap tnya lg if ko mau kita blik mcm dlu...

tp ko nemau...

fine, aku trima ja...e2 kputusan ko...

tp bila aku da ada org len, sna la jua ko mau aku blik dgn ko...

pluang yg aku bg n ko sia2kn tu knapa???

ko mgaku ko bodoh n ko myesal tp da terlalu lewat...

aku da ada org len...

tlng la jan cuci fikiran sy dgn fikiran negatif ko...

tlng jan buruk2kn org len coz dri sendri pun x perfect..

if ko mc suka, sy x kesa..bkn sy x pduli tp apa yg sy blh bt??

sy bkn ats pgar mau pilih sepa...sy sdh bt pilihan...

mcm yg ko pena ckp dgn sy "if kita ada jodoh, nda ke mn jua tu..."

so if kita ada jodoh, nda ke mn jua tu...

sy nemau bg ko hrpn...n sy nemau elak ko...

so bt msa skrg, kta jd kwn dlu k...

*kena bt entri bm coz c kawan sorg tu kn nda fhm b.m...kesian dia...