so now, im officially switching on my love mode...jubii...
i knew that nobody's perfect...but, im kinda perfectionist...well, for sure, i cant be perfect, but, i can try to be one...and people say, human will make mistakes from the beginning of their live till they turn to stony cold 6ft under...but that doesnt mean that we as human are OK to make mistakes...NEVER...but, we as human are OK to prevent doing any mistakes...and THATS perfection...
when it comes to feb = love, people will automatically think feb = love among couples, relationship men and women, husbands and wives, etc...and when it comes to mistake, these relationships are the magnet of it...
after a 'break-up' 3yrs ago (well, not exactly a break-up, but he left me for another girl, and yet, they are no longer together as i wrote this post), i realized that i should buy books...books about relationship...books about love...books about long-lasting relationship...ada ka???
as a student, i had trained myself to follow rules or steps...especially in lab, i must follow the steps and prevent any possible errors...so, i neeeeeeeed those books to help me....to guide me to a better me...in relationship...for me, it sounds really desperate (at first)...but since im a perfectionist, i am desperate enough to learn...to learn whats the best for me and for my future partner...because break-up is SUXXXXXZ....
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The primary love needs of women and men:
a) women need to receive: 1.caring, 2. understanding, 3.respect, 4.devotion, 5.validation, 6.reassurance...
b) men need to receive: 1.trust, 2.acceptance, 3.appreciation, 4.admiration, 5.approval, 6.encouragement...
*so, give those to ur partner...
The biggest different between mars and venus:
- men pull back and then get close, while women rise and fall in their ability to love themselves and others...
- meaning: men always back and forth from the natural him to the silent him...natural: ladies...have fun with him...silent: ladies...go and find your girl-friend for chat...while ladies' rise-and-fall: gents, understand ur lady...
- conclusion: gents understand the ladies, the ladies set the gents free to silent mode...
through this book, i realized that the cant-stop-talking routine of mine, was the biggest mistake i ever made in my past relationship...it really showed me that i am not fully understand him as a man...i am not aware when he pulled back...and when i should shut my f-ing mouth...and now i knew, i hope that i can detect the pull-back and practice to zip up my
